Guest Post: Defeat the Do’s and Don’ts of Blogging with Three Unconventional Perspectives

I’m thrilled to welcome Kalyn Brooke to Momcomm today! Kalyn writes at Creative Savings and is the perfect example of how to ask for a guest post. She’s a Momcomm reader who came to me with an idea, the overall point of the article, and a sample of writing. Kalyn has been a pleasure to work with and I only wish I had the post up sooner. Here are Kalyn’s tips for how to get past the constant barrage of blogging do’s and don’ts and to focus on what matters most!

There are a lot of different ways pro-bloggers tell newbies they can generate more blog traffic, get more followers, subscribers, comments, likes, etc. And we dutifully follow their suggestions. I mean, they are the pros, right?

Here are some of the most common:

  • Comment on other blogs
  • Participate in link parties
  • Produce great content and lots of it
  • Guest post on other blogs
  • Be generous with links
  • Network on social media

But what they might not tell you, is what to do when all those things don’t result in the success you were expecting.

It can be hard to see bloggers who hit the big leagues in six months. Meanwhile, you dutifully follow all the “rules,” and still find your own blog in an excruciatingly slow growth period. We wonder what went wrong. Should we have tried harder, wrote more posts, commented on one more blog?

Let me tell you from experience. The answer is NO. 

The Internet is a fickle thing, readers don’t have awesome attention spans, and you’re always one click away from something else new and exciting. And it’s nothing related to what you did, or didn’t do on your blog or marketing strategy!

So, instead of being miserable and avoiding sleep to make your site more competitive, or more strategic, why not try a few unconventional perspectives? Or perhaps these are the very things we should have developed in the first place, before tackling anything on our blogging to-do list.

1. Be Yourself

I’m not saying to get rid of business strategy or to stop reading how-to blogs. But anytime you start to get depressed, or anxious about where you are, or what you’re doing, remember… yourself. Everything else will fall into place.

  • You might not get your five comments in on other blogs, but the one you do leave will be more genuine and from the heart.
  • Your conversations on Twitter won’t be forced, and you’ll build actual relationships.
  • You might not even get a post up every day, but the two or three you do write will be of incredible quality and benefit your readers even more.

Best of all, it relieves that burden of trying to be everything to everyone. Which is physically and emotionally impossible, anyway!

2. Be Patient

Really great ideas take time. We can’t expect everyone to say how wonderful our blog is after 10 posts. For many of us, it takes a good year or two for significant growth to occur.

Use this slower growing point to hone your writing voice, develop your passion, and make mistakes. Find out what works and what doesn’t. Get into a blogging routine, collect ideas, and write extra posts. Plan for the time when you will have a larger community of readers, so you can serve them more effectively.

Wouldn’t you rather a trial-and-error period happen with only ten people watching, than one hundred?

3. Celebrate Your Accomplishments

My husband is forever telling me I’m a grass-is-greener-girl, always looking ahead to what I don’t have, or what could be. Unfortunately, it’s true, and that isn’t healthy! You can’t focus on where or how you fall short. Instead, focus on what you’ve already accomplished.

  • Are you ahead in your posting schedule? Great!
  • Did you see a small spike in traffic today? Yes!
  • Is there at least one new visitor who left a comment this week? Do a happy dance!

If you develop a heart of discontentment now, you won’t be able to enjoy your blog even at 50 comments or 100,000 page views. You’ll always be craving more.

Blogs are supposed to be fun! Let’s not turn them into something that we dread, or let them consume so much of us that our emotions rise and fall on our statistics.

Pro-bloggers can only give you so much advice. You have to be the one who finds contentment in what you write, how you promote, and the types of relationships you build.

kayln-brookeKalyn Brooke is a writer/blogger in Southwest Florida who isn’t afraid of hard work or BIG dreams. As a girl with an insane amount of hobbies, life is never boring, and she loves spending it with her husband, Joseph, and one super adorable bunny, named Twix. Frugal living is her passion, book hoarding her weakness, and a well-stocked freezer full of ice cream an essential luxury. You’ll find her latest money-saving ideas and projects at Creative Savings.


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  1. says

    These are some great tips and definitely something I need to remind myself off more often. Thanks for sharing!

  2. Kim says

    This resonates with me and refreshes me! I totally hit the blues recently with feeling like I was on the hamster wheel with this. I have a nice core of readers, but it isn’t a big one. My growth is very slow. I was finding myself a little anxious about why my page views aren’t increasing beyond a certain span. I just decided to take a deep breath, and focus on why I began in the first place. I was losing that in the game. I decided just to keep having fun with my blog, and not worry about how big it is.

  3. says

    Kalyn, this is so good! As a blogger, it’s easy to get caught up in making sure you check all the boxes…and then when you do, end up miserable because your blogging neighbor’s stats are off the charts. Thanks for a great reminder!

    • says

      It’s also good to note that what works for one blogger, may not work for the other. We all have different communities with different needs.

  4. says

    Great advice!

    I must admit I am impatient. My current blog is only three months old (as of today!) and I constantly freak out over whether I can make this one a better success than my other blogs. I’ve been blogging for about three years and have created at least four blogs in the process. My Coffee Pot Chronicles blog lasted the longest (2 years). Knowing all of this, I ask myself “Umm, you’ve been doing this for 3 years. Why does the KU blog suck?” I have to remind myself it’s a new blog with its own style and personality. Growth takes time. Those three years of knowledge are helping me shape a better, stronger blog and for that, I am thankful.

    • says

      You are not alone! Technically I have been blogging for 4 years, but the previous 2 sites were such a learning process. It made me think that Creative Savings would be an instant success, and when it wasn’t, I got really discouraged (and it’s not even a year old yet!)

  5. says

    Yay and yay! Great post- I’m working really hard on ENJOYING my first couple of years in my new blog and not stressing so much. And great intro, Melissa. I am going to work on my guest-posting for this next year.

  6. says

    Great tips! What if your blog was growing, and now it looks as if it has plateaued? Any ideas for a pick-me-up without compromising your original vision?

    • says

      When my blog plateaus, that means I need to get my content in front of more people. It took me a while to learn, but I realized that if I cut out the time for a guest post on another site, I would reach a whole new audience. I knew this in my head, but to actually sit down and write for someone else? That’s a little bit harder.

      Right now, I have a goal of 1 guest post a month to keep the influx of new people coming. And when I see it starting to slow a little bit, then I know I should have a guest post coming up soon that will give me some activity.

  7. says

    Great post! I am bad for getting caught up in the dos and not spending enough time just blogging for enjoyment. Thanks for the reminder.

  8. says

    I totally agree on all the three things you said above. Especially being yourself and being patient, for myself those things are really essential in having a better blog. Nonetheless, the third one is great too, being happy and grateful on things you have accomplished is a good way to cheer yourself up with all the troubles and hard work you have done in your blog.

  9. says

    This is a great post and just what I needed to remind myself to enjoy my blog and the blogging process. My mantra for blogging lately has been: Comparison is the thief of joy. So true!

  10. says

    I’m so glad I ran across your blog on Pinterest. I’m a new to blogging blogger and am trying really hard to learn how to build it and make it special.

  11. says

    Great post. I totally agree! When I start to stress about what I “should” be doing, I remember that my blog is just about me + the universe, and a place for me to be ME. Without screaming children entering the conversation. Well sometimes they do…
    Thanks for the reminder 😉

  12. says

    Yes yes yes. When I first started blogging there was so much stuff to do besides actually blog, it could get quite overwhelming. And I always felt like I still wasn’t doing enough even when I was running myself ragged. Love this list so much.

  13. says

    Thanks for the advice, I was searching all over to know the do and don’t and I found some very heavy stuff however you have the same idea but very precise and to the point.